Without love what is life

One of the biggest challenges in life is to overcome our past hurts and losses so that we can live to our fullest potential in the present. I also know from your comment that the unresolved hurt has influenced how you feel as well as your relationships.

I met and treated so many people over the years that got into patterns of finding the same hurtful relationships over and over again. And in most cases they were not aware of how they were doing so. When a person becomes aware of their relationship patterns they can then make changes to improve their chances of having a more satisfying love life. Also, and more importantly, because the pain of what you have felt can be so overwhelming you have contemplated suicide, I strongly recommend that you get yourself evaluated for treatment.

Having someone to talk to about your feelings and disappointments will be a great relief to you and help you figure out what changes you need to make in order to change the direction of your life and love life. I recommend you do this right away.

Learning how to take care of ourselves, is the first step in changing our lives for the better. I have that in my husband and appreciate it. But the absence of romantic love is painful, barely tolerable. But for the sake of the young children we have, we go on. And on. You are not alone. I have same with my wife. Hardly a companionship and NO love. My son is in college and the daughter is still in school 7 more years to go before college.

I love my children, and divorce will be devastating for my daughter. Life is a prison solitary confinement and I wonder what will it be like if I am released from it after 7 years? I am lonely too in my marriage. I want to set free myself, and wonder what it will be like……. It is hard, I feel my life has no meaning at all. As an asexual I have been condemned by society to a loveless life, this life without love is not living but merely existing. Evey day wake up with the feeling,someone will be there..

But after the death of my parents,no one really was there.. Without the precious thing call Love,My mind is everywhere…. I made a Facebook group called : Giving up on love -living a single life , so if any or all of you could join ,i would be very happy. I would join if it were a secret group. I have seen many of my friends get hurt because of that thing. What could the meaning be of a life without love? Wow, I too am Pete aged My last relationship was when I was I have never actually been on a date, apart from the 35 where I was either stood up or they ran away screaming as soon as they saw me.

All I know is that every single woman on the planet finds me utterly revolting, repulsive, and disgusting. I have spent the last three decades trying to figure out why — and at this point I have to accept that no-one is ever going to be able to tell me. The rest of my life is great — good health, fit and slim, kind friends, never really cared about money adept at living like a pauper and genuinely not bothered about it , plenty of things to keep me interested, and a deep love of nature.

I hate being alone at I have been a carer to both my mother and father. I care for my son, who is 25 with depression. Life is hell. And I feel I have been robbed of the right to live as a human being should. Life without love tears me apart.

Maybe so. But i have felt love and still feel it towards people around me and towards stuff i do. Therefore i cant say i live without love and i think nobody really live without feeling it, things you like are also feeling love towards them. Two years ago i met one boy and we were together for a really little time. But the time didnt matter it was special, he was special. Now, 2 years later i still love him and think he is special, eventhough i know its only onesided and we cant never be together.

I think we are here, in this planet and in this life for experiences. Feeling things love is part of it. Helping and listening others is what i enjoy the most about life and it also helped me to learn how to live without love companion. It is crushing and painful sometimes but if i want to be happy i need to push down my feelings and learn to live without them, to do that i need to be aware of them and accept them and find other ways to feel love friends, sport and other stuff.

This is my opinion at least. Sorry about my grammar, english is not my first language. Truth be told, I am frightened, truly afraid of what will come, what the time has in storage. And due to various experiences, I just had to turn out to become a homosexual… can you believe the irony? I love myself and I accept myself as I am, I tell that to myself everyday. I seek to befriend myself and all the demons of mine, what would I do if I were truly alone in this vast, cold world? Guess what though?

I just wish for happiness, since love is something I can never have, other than unrequited love. What actually helps ease the pain, the thundering, raging heart, is writing poems, or working on book writing. Makes me actually write hell of a good stuff! I often also listen to music soundtracks, classic, opera, whatever sounds good at the moment , play computer games keeps mind busy , exercise daily that feeling getting out of the house!

I slack off because I have no real motivation or ambition may be for reasons others have mentioned above. I live vegan lifestyle. For those of us, you, the ones living without love; I wish you good luck and happiness. It has been nearly two and a half years since you wrote this and I found it just now. It is inspiring how you are trying to manage your life.

It is true that a life without love is crushing at times but it also provides one with time to explore oneself and the world at large. Keep reading and writing and doing all the stuff that make your life meaningful.

I would really like to come in touch with you and correspond via email. If you are interested then my email id is nickgen gmail. I choose to be alone, from past pains and fear of rejection, reject most forms of love from anyone ironically strange, huh?

But I can still love. Love from afar, love deep down inside, love music, love sunshine and breezes, love walking, love sleep, love the idea of love! I decided at age 13 that the human race is over-populating itself, there is no necessity to create children any more than there is to cure world poverty, and that the most important type of love in LIFE is love for thyself.

That turned out to be spot-on true. Stay strong, stay connected, stay your own worst enemy and your own best friend. To me, those living solo are every day heroes. After several times of betrayal from friends and family members, I lost hope in life. No matter how hard I try to search for love, it just remains unseen. I am truly amazed that I have managed to not kill myself. Would it be better to die?

As nobody cares whether Im living or not. I feel the same way you do, but I will persevere until the end. I smoke though until I manage to regain balance after my both parents died. We seek human love. But it is elusive. I have been married for 30 years. But alone in my marriage. Only the studyof Jesus has shown me true love.

Hi I wonder how many people search for answers and then lose heart and not write anything. Question is , how long till I see the light? I have noticed that people in relationships are more lonely than single people. I could find some relief seeing that I was not alone in loneliness. I have lost my once dearest friends. Not that they all left me — there were some I left on the way because I could see how unreal to me.

I often times find myself questioning my life. Sometimes I feel I am not happy about my job, teaching, either. On the top of all these, I cannot help asking myself why I have no that someone special I could share my life with.

Each year things get tougher than before for me — most probably my treshold to bear life keeps lowering and I am scared to face it all myself.

I keep myself busy with my job, students, graduate studies currently, yet whenever I go bed at night, I could hear walls taking to me. Life gets harder then. I pretend I am against relarionships whatsoever but deepdown I feel kind of angry towards life for meeting the wrong people and getting wounds somewhere clise to my heart. Can we be friends? Hi, you are only 30! And when you have it, take care of your loved one and never take it for granted!

Hey everyone. I was made for a specific reason- so even when I was all alone and binge eating and crying every night, wondering when things were going to change would I get a new job, could I even save enough money to relocate? I had peace when I pused and read scripture: we were all made for a reason. So even in my darkest times, I could press on. Thankfully, I started serving others and finding my passions and purposes outside of the office, as well as a church family, and things got better.

I was able to put down the rejection I felt from seemingly all angles of my life. I have tried though. So in order to coping with that I always tries to bind with other female whether she is a stranger or not as to seek connection, and I always fails.

So here I am always getting hurt whenever I seek out love. Seems like one part of my ife is always gets lost whenever that happens. I often feel like relationships has turned out to be some kind of status thing rather than actual love. Unfortunately that brings a lot of pressure on that person because they would have to be amazing.

I think we in general also put a lot more into love than there actually is — I know I do as you can read in the paragraph above. I think what we really lack with an exception for sex and that stuff — which is a human basic need is to be understood by our surroundings and that romantic love can actually be replaced by deep and accepting friendship.

I wish all of you the best and that you can feel complete without love or that you can find something else to conquer your attention. Most of all I wish for you to feel no shame about who you are, because there is really nothing wrong being this way. This is so spot on! From myself I just want to add that I just never give up.

There are just so many people out there that you can try to connect with. We should build bridges instead of walls. Life is scary with love and companionship. Speak what u want to see as the information that goes into your heart then becomes a reality and belief 3.

Whatever you feel will radiate energy which in turn attract or fail to attract right people in your life. Start believing right and believe what you want to see in life, and it will happen. Right believing brings about right living.

Start loving yourself and focus on what makes you whole, before finding love and giving love. Live and love without expectations.

Because expectations almost always fail you. Remember that having someone in your life to love does not equate happiness. Only when you realise that the highest form of love is from God that you will achieve inner peace and happiness. Seek God and all will be blessed unto you. What love are we seeking? I have learnt to trust God to find me the right person at the right time because only his plans will bring me peace and true happiness. You are absolutely right and through your information given it shows you are in touch with your higher power.

One can not attract proper love until one properly loves the self. Thanks for the article. I am wondering how do I put these psychological defenses up successfully? I am an unlovable and undesirable female. I need to learn how to live a loveless life. Any suggestions are greatly appreciated! I m married for two years after a 5 year relationship. I thought things were gonna get even better than they were,but no.

We lost the love we had for each other.. It vanished.. Not by itself.. We quarreled a lot about certain things and we still quarrell and I dont think we will ever agree on something.

And I miss being loved by a man. I miss the hugs, the kisses, the caring.. I miss feeling love. I dont know what to do. I keep telling myself that this is not the way I want to live my life. I only have one life and I dont want to feel angry all the time.

Because I am. I m angry exactly because I miss love. I am afraid to change my life for degrees. I am afraid to look for live again, cause I ve learned that love is easy to get, but hard to keep. And I dont want to lose it again. Hi Gigi, I feel exactly the same… I am not married yet, but in long-term relationship 10 years and I miss love more and more. I mean the feeling — the chemical cocktail, the person who thinks I am awesome.

And I feel angry all the time. But I am afraid to change my life — what if I make a big mistake just for the drug called love? My age 46, female. I have a girlfrn age of We love so deeply, we care each other for few years. She was in prayers before meet me. Sumtimes she will said loving me, in sudden will avoid me in name of spritual life. Making me confused till today. As i know we are not lesbians, we are really beautiful lovers.

Thank you so mich for these words. I know this might sound silly to some folks but I compare this with Cola-soft drinks. I gave up Coke. And I miss it sometimes, health wise I am ina better spot. This is the exact sma thing. And I know I can always go to the store and het me a Soda, I refrain as I know the damage that cause me.

I did have love ones…. Watching crying…it hurts so much…I want to die.. After a lifetime of being alone prior to marriage it was hard to change. So I lost that love and now for the past 22 years have been either in non-loving, mostly asexual relationships or trying and failing to grasp love.

I have dogs and will get more. I try to sleep when I need to, eat and drink when necessary. I will enjoy music and friends but live with this crushing emptiness and longing. Sanity sometimes requires we give up on hope for love. Faith helps but one wonders why love is so hard for some, me, and others seem to sail through life surrounded by love.

I miss the woman I love, talking to her especially, you never know how wonderful life can be when you have someone to share and talk with about life. Hope is the most insidious villain in this world, it still causes us to long but knows she will never return. Have a drink, enjoy some friends and count on nothing but loneliness. Im 37 and have long since given up on having any sort of romantic connection. I had an abusive upbringing, was shown no real love or affection, and I partially blame this on my problems.

I actually enjoy being alone, it feels safe to me, but I certainly do feel the sting of loneliness. Im sure the abuse and neglect I was subject to caused or at lest significantly contributed to this.

Why do humans have such a deep need for love when it never happens for everyone? At age 33 I met my soulmate, and we had four wonderful years together until he cheated on me. There is no chance of us ever getting back together because before I found out about the cheating, he broke up with me by email saying that he cannot marry me because of my family.

The deep pain caused from countless devastating situations since I was little will never be healed. Life is never fair, and living without love makes life so much more painful and difficult even when staying busy. Hello everybody, I want to thank you all for sharing your life experience with lack of love. I also thank the author of this article that brought so many comments. So I went through this life without experiencing any romantic love. One day we argued and I told her that but she denied.

But I think the absence of a maternal love had played a major part in my low self esteem which has lead me to being depressed all my life up untill now. Asking myself question about those matters and reading articles like this one above might help me to find some answers and hopefully live a less unhappy life.

Am 23 and i feel as if i cant love anymore. There are so many of us…goodness! Best of luck to us all…what a load to carry…. I am 43 and just beginning my life of loneliness and lovelessness. I have had 3 major long-term at least 2 years relationships and then met my husband then 7 years later divorced my husband. When I began getting over the excruciating pain of the divorce and started dating again 2 years ago, all the men that I met and who have pursued me are already in serious relationships.

I guess that is what you have to expect once you hit 40? Many people are already paired up and are going out to have affairs. I am not interested in married men or having an affair. So I am not going out anymore for a while and I am trying to invest in myself and a life without love.

Any advice on getting through Friday and Saturday nights alone? My story is entirely different. I loved a girl 3 years back, she married someone else 2 years ago. After coming back to office from her marriage vacation, she told me all these things. She used to look at me with so much love and affection that no girl till now looked at me like that. After a year I changed to another company for my career growth, but still was in touch with this girl. She loves me still, I know but she had stopped talking to me recently as she want to be a loyal wife to her husband.

But I can not forget her, she comes in my dreams and always I am constantly lost in her thoughts. I want to come out of this but sometimes it feels so good to think about her and some times it is of so much pain. I feel like I am deprived of love and affection. But there were lots of casual encounters, no strings or future, and I was happy with that. But then I got therapy for a year through a research study. I was persuaded to open up. This coincided with meeting a guy through a group of friends.

There was an instant attraction. We hooked up on the first date. I had all the messy emotions. He admitted that he was attracted to me in a different way than his usual casual sex. He said that no one but me ever spent the night at his house, they left afterwards.

A good friend of his confirmed this. I spent the night several times, and even the next day. Stupid therapy! For what was likely the 1st time I was open, but it was with someone as emotionally self-protective as I used to be. I just turned I was loved unconditionally by my grandmother for the first 38 years of my life. When he cheated and left, I was devastated — still am. I have tried dating and have found nothing but liars, cheaters and con men. Both of my cats died and I have no desire to replace them.

I literally drag myself through my days and cannot wait for sleep every night. I hate my life. Just feeling like that, myself. To have loved and lost, it is mind crazy. Hang on, you have to overcome that stage of your life and find things that you love to do, to distract you, and keep an open mind. It will help your suffering heart. Things might get better in time. Lynn and Lucia , like both of you I am also feeling the loneliness and a need to feel love.

Difference is I am married …you can be with someone and feel alone. Divorce is complicated. Too scared to get out so I live in limbo and unhappy and lonely. I understand so many of the feelings shared here. I too have been confused at times about the lack of love or evasiveness of love in my life. The thoughts can seep in easily. I was badly abused as a child and at age 21 met the first person to show me love and affection.

He just up and left one day, and I was abandoned again. I am often scared, worried about what might or might not happen on any given day. I have a dog who I believe has saved my life, as I often feel that I have nothing else to live for. Many blessings to all of us for what we have gone through and have the courage to deal with every day.

My situation could be a little different. I was raised in a very restricted religious environment. I was raised being taught that it is the job of our Creator to provide us with a partner, therefore we have to simply wait.

So, I waited. All of sudden I am above I have never been loved. I had crush to some girls which were not part of my church. However, because of the conviction that grew in me since childhood, I had no option other than burning inside with a desire. I am successful in other aspects of life. I have achieved so much what others would envy. However I feel emptiness.

As you guys said, loneliness as crushing beyond words can tell. Now I am thinking back to those religious fathers who have subjected me to this life. I still respect them and understand their desire to maintain a holy church. However, I feel that,in the process, I am robbed off my life.

I have begun to develop disdain and hatred to those people who subjected me this horrible and tasteless life. Now in retrospect, I believe that was not the Will of the Lord for me to lead that kind of life.

Thanks so much to everyone for sharing your stories, your pain. I could be a total catch. Something chemical that would make it possible for people to like me, even a lot, but never to love me.

He made me feel loved like never before. Here I thought it had finally, finally found me but yet again I was wrong. They make me feel even more left out, different, wrong, lonely. What if there is really no one for me?

I make a beautiful advent calendar for myself every year with the nicest and most precious little gifts do you guys have these? The one counting from December 1st to 24th? If not: start it! Take care, be good to yourselves. Allow yourselves to be sad because holy damn shit, it is awfully sad!

Because you deserve it. I see all the inspiring comments and stories here. I came upon this post just now and have read many of the comments above. I too feel as if I will never be loved. Rejection is painful whatever your age…. I was however given some good advice and that was to offer myself the love and kindness I would give to someone else who was feeling as I do.

I have to find a way to love who I am. It is lonely and I do feel sad that maybe I have missed connections on that deeply soul level. I wonder at the ease some people have with others and the joy that follows from it. Reading the comments made me feel not so alone so thank you to all who have shared. Be kind to yourselves and thank you again.

Shelters by a over baring mother and resentful father. Whom both chased each others friends off being miserable toghther.

Then using me as a pawn in a chest game. To the point I resented every thing of life. Could never have a gf,self righteous mother woud always stick her nose in. Father could careless. Fired from jobs from mother in siting on blabbering till 3am of the same story,or cause ww3 if tried to shut her out. My spirit broke at age 19,when I had no friends. Had a melt down at 25, moved off only to be tracked down with mother on front door,with no place to go.

Back to the family home. With spirt broken again. Resent for any thing in life. Melt downs inbetween, praying to just die. Both had massive heart attacks at 39yrs of my age. Since I cant let myself trust anyone or know how to be in a rwaltionship. And stuck to tat would never have kids to put in my situation. As yes kids are u use to take care on you as you die in you finally burdening stage. All I canmustmmm can muster is a wart hog.

That I have no attraction to only joy for me is counting down days to my death to finally be free. I have been loved and destroyed from them only. They just want to play around. As a good human being what we can do is help them and expect nothing in return.

God is always there. He takes us in troubles to make us strong only. We need to have a connection with him. You need to Pray and have a peaceful mind!!! This whole comment thread hit home very hard. I am a 21 years old female lesbian For some reasons,when I started high school, I believed from the bottom of my heart that I would find love during those years.

To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night. To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving. To go through life without love is to travel through the world in a carriage with closed windows.

A life without love is of no account. Don't ask yourself what kind of love you should seek, spiritual or material, divine or mundane, Eastern or Western. Divisions only lead to more divisions. Love has no labels, no definitions. It is what it is, pure and simple. And a lover is a soul of fire!

Love is the flower of life, and blossoms unexpectedly and without law, and must be plucked where it is found, and enjoyed for the brief hour of its duration. A life without love is like a tree without fruit. Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies. People who are sensible about love are incapable of it.

Much love much trial, but what an utter desert is life without love. A life without love, without the presence of the beloved, is nothing but a mere magic-lantern show. We draw out slide after slide, swiftly tiring of each, and pushing it back to make haste for the next.

We must rejoice when love is great, and pardon its excess, for love is the staff of life, and life without love is life in vain. A mortal life with love is endlessly superior to an immortal life without love. A life without love is like a year without spring.

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Login Sign Up. Life Without Love Quotes facebook twitter googleplus. Khalil Gibran. Love , Life , Wedding. Rose , World , May. Leo Buscaglia. Matter , Emptiness , Empty. Oscar Wilde. Love , Life , Best Friend. Oscar Wilde Show source. A life without love isn't a life Rumi. Search this website. A life without Love is no life at all. Also, someone loving you does not give your life meaning. Love should be shared. It is not selfish.

Love is never up and down. It is steady and consistent. You cannot just Love your partner, friends, and family and not be loving towards others as well. You are either all in or all out.

There is no in-between.